"So my question is: why do I have such a hard time believing that I’m beautiful? I know it’s not just me who has an issue with this. Over the years, I’ve had many heart-to-hearts with friends, and I finally understand that while our insecurities seem individual…they’re not. I understand patriarchy to be a structure that encourages women to always be thinking about how they appear to others around them. The promotion of perverse standards of beauty creates a feeling of competition where women are supposed to compare themselves to one another—comparisons like: she’s skinnier than me, she’s prettier, and she has whiter teeth. I’m serious about the teeth. I’ve thought it for sure. And as our minds go into overdrive with insecurities, we are left with a feeling of being less than. Less than whom? Other women…"